I’m known for capturing those didn’t-know-you-were-there shots and busting a move on the dance floor just to get those perfect candids. I also work with you to ensure we incorporate your style and story into your engagement and wedding photos!
Our fist year of marriage was wonderful, a little stressful, but also incredible. We moved into our dream home, I left my corporate job to pursue my dreams as a wedding photographer, and we grew so much closer together.
After our wedding, we realized the hype and anticipation leading up to the wedding day was completely overwhelming. We now got to relax and be husband and wife on the beach in Oregon. It was wonderful, but it’s really hard coming from a year of planning hard core for your wedding and going to just relax and do nothing. Anyone can relate?!
We quickly got our Thank You postcards out and just began our lives together as a married couple. Let me tell you guys, but most of you already know, marriage is AWESOME!! I never thought that being married to my best friend was even possible and we are each others other half.
I honestly don’t think that being married for the first year is the most difficult because we spent our first year just loving each other more each day, learning more about each other, got to make some pretty big life changes together, and are ridiculously happy.
Yes, we had our fights. Yes, we had our differences. Yes, we got mad at each other. But our love grew and those fights grew us closer together. We know that we are not going to marry any one else in the lifetime and that we are perfect together- so with that said, we know a fight won’t break us. We know now that not agreeing is not the end of the world (something I have to keep reminding myself). We know that if one of us is mad, we give them space to breathe, think, and then talk it out. I can’t stress enough that communication is the best thing ever in a marriage. Communication and honesty.
Women’s brains are literally spaghetti and men’s brains are like a box. When a lady freaks out about something and the guy hasn’t the slightest idea why, explain it to them. Don’t just say “you just don’t get it”… well he wants to know what you mean so he can try to make you happy again. Sometimes us ladies have to try a little harder to find out how your man registers things and then adjust from there. My husband, he has to take a little while to understand what the heck I’m saying. So, I break it down and explain how my thoughts got to where they ended up. Communication is seriously the best thing.
Leaving my corporate job was stressful. I was so afraid to leave it and pursue my dream that I had panic attacks. I didn’t think that we were going to be able to afford a life without this corporate job and that I feared I would be unhappy the rest of my life there. I thought our marriage would not work out and I feared of being alone. When I told my husband how stressed I was, we knew that leaving this job was the right choice for me personally, and for our marriage.
Next to Matt proposing, and our wedding day, that was one of the best decisions of my life/ our lives.
Our first year of marriage has certainly flown by and I can’t believe it’s over. Right after getting married, you think time kind of stands still, but we seriously don’t know where the time went. We laughed, we cried, but we grew more in love with each other and grew so much closer now that we are married. And we hope to continue that growth as we stay married for the rest of our lives.
So I leave you with this, friends. COMMUNICATION is key. Any advice I can give to couples about to get married or think the first year of marriage is the hardest, I say it docent have to be. Just communicate with each other, learn how each other registers information, learn what their love language is, and breathe.
I hope today’s SJ’s Bridal Banter was helpful to anyone out there! If you have any questions you want to ask or anything about the first year of marriage, I’d love to chat! My email is worksbysarahjane@gmail.com. Happy Wednesday Friends!
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